Today we are commenting together! Sorry this is late. There has been a lot happening in the Asmus home in the past 24 hours, not with us personally but with relationships around us that we cherish. So thank you for being patient with us.
Neither of us thought that a "gift" was the answer for us. We lived our life so focused on "things" that we agreed that our gift to one another was time & talking! That is the biggest gift that we can share with one another. We spent over 8 years of our marriage with minimal communication. When we did talk and when we did it was about the kids, money or what bothered us about one another. We were full of selfish desires that we wanted met and blamed one another when it was not done.
We have had time to talk about everything in the past day!! Things that really matter like the salvation of 1 friend, meeting with a friend that is saving her marriage, caring for a friend in a crisis. All those are things that we can talk about, pray about and ask God to use us in his way to help love on those people and bring others into their life that can impact them. We then got to talk about our family, talk about our intimacy, talk about doing this Dare and best of all laughing together!
We did not laugh together very often until about a year ago. We just did not know how to "let some things go"! I took everything so serious and made a big deal about everything, once again, it was all about ME! I since have learned a life lesson... SERVICE OPPORTUNITY! Example: If Andy leaves his shoes out, I can pray for his feet as they walk to/from work, to keep his walk with Christ healthy, to keep him active so his body stays healthy! I used to nag and complain..but this has a much greater eternal reward than having shoes picked up. I may still ask him to help tidy up, but in a much sweeter and kinder way.
The question in this dare: What happened when we gave our "gift"? I was able to be grateful for Andy even more today! So thankful that we chose to stick it out through the affairs, alcoholism, codependency, control, 8 surgeries, a heart attack and just outright selfish horrifying lifestyle for 8 years. Today I see that to remove my selfish thoughts (which I give to God daily still ) gained me a godly marriage that Christ is the center of. When Andy & I remarried on Oct 2, 2005 is when we gave our marriage to Christ, we would not be here married without that intricate detail!
I love you so much Andy!!!
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